"I can't lose weight."
"I can't find the time to plan my meals."
"I can't find the energy to get to training."
Our minds are powerful. Your internal dialog sets the tone for what you believe is true about yourself. If you keep telling yourself “I can’t lose any pounds off the scale” or “I can’t find the motivation” then you WON’T! You need to start BELIEVING you CAN!!! Can’t is a four letter word that we want to banish from our internal self.
Somewhere between being perfect and giving up, there’s BETTER.
Many of us strive for perfection, especially on the journey of weight loss. When things don’t go as planned you might say “Forget it, I will start again tomorrow” and tomorrow turns into Monday and so on. Then that voice inside your head might tell you, you failed again so why bother trying any more. You need to SILENCE that voice and get back on track! Every day (even every minute) is an opportunity to get better and closer to our goals!
We must choose to be positive and shut the negative out! There is so much negative going on in the world it is hard not to be brought down by it. Be grateful. Write down something positive about each day and see the difference it makes. Small shifts like this can make a big difference in yourself. I wouldn’t doubt that soon gratitude will be overflowing to others.
To your best health,
Today is THE day.
Have you been perfect? No? Well, that's a GOOD thing!
Because we are looking for progress, not perfection.
Coach Vince Gabriel put it this way, “When you get half-way up the mountain you can look at how far you have to go or you can focus on how far you have come.”
We humans can be such difficult creatures to get along with.
“I only lost 2 pounds of fat last month!!!” and frustration sets it.
I bet if you lose 24 pounds of fat this year you would be pretty happy about it though. You will need a whole new wardrobe, and you know how much you love to shop.
You can’t lose the 24 without losing the 2.
So stop trying to be perfect all the time and be happy when you take that next step, when you make just a little more progress.
Progress might look like:
Progress, not perfection.
To your best health,
Do you know how ice becomes ice?
The chemistry behind it all?
"Lots of little H20 molecules are buzzing around as water. Then, as the temperature drops, they slow down ... a n d s l o w d o w n a n d s l o w d o w n ... and finally lock into place as ice. To me, that comes perilously close to describing the way we work. Imagine a bird’s-eye view of a building with people working inside. People come in, full of energy. And then they slow down, sit down and spend the whole day locked in place (desk, meeting room, repeat). We get locked into place, locked down into being efficient and in the groove — but not really being creative. To get creative, you’ve got to move it, move it. You’ve got to move it, move it! *Thanks, Vanilla Ice.”- from the book Be Creative by Michael Bungay Stanier.
I know what you’re thinking and you are right but you are also wrong.
You are probably thinking ahead to me writing all about get your body moving. Get off that chair and do something active. I know you can hear me inside your head…… "you can do anything for 30 seconds".
But I’m not going there.
I’m old. I am reminded of that fact often as I fill in forms and my age bracket is lower and lower on the page. I see the facts that my date of birth has me scrolling to find the year I was born.
With age comes the gnawing idea that I am becoming set in my ways. My patterns of behavior are like ice. They are solid and very predictable.
That’s not a good thing when I want to change something. What about you? How easy is it for you to change something about your behavior?
Face the facts, you’ve slowed down and your habits are iced into your being. It’s going to take some work and a long time to melt that exterior and create new.
Change can be difficult, no question.
These 3 steps to reaching any goal help us to get ourselves unstuck:
Don’t settle for being in a rut. Get yourself unstuck from the path you’ve settled into.
When an ice cube melts, it does so slowly. At first the ice doesn’t seem to change at all, then a slow trickle of water melts down. A tiny drip is followed by another and soon a small puddle develops.
The water can now be shaped into something new. But nothing can happen until that first tiny drop trickles down.
To your best health,
Good, better or best?
We face choices every day. Choices in what we eat, when we eat our meals, where to eat, eating on the go or taking time to sit, having a meal or drinks with family and friends or alone. Choices hit us even at the grocery store.
You have your meals planned and you’re heading to the store. You’re in front of the strawberries ready to pick up the berries for a salad you planned for dinner the next night.
AH..... you stop because there are two choices. The berries on sale and some organic berries. What do you do?
While your thoughts pause long enough you realize that you could take an hour out of your day tomorrow morning to pick strawberries. It was always a favorite while a kid and now you can make those memories with your own family.
Oh and another option speaks up while you are still standing in the produce section - you could just stop on the way home and buy some at that farm stand.
Oh, what to do, what to do.......
Is there only one right choice?
Life is so so busy. I have 50,000 things on my to-do list just for today. So my best choice is that I should stay at it, hit the ground running and keep on going until all 50,000 are done.
It will make me feel good to check off 50,000 things.
What will it cost me to do all those things?
What will I gain?
What does this have to do with good, better or best?
I make choices that involve my being and affects my well-being.
It affects my mood, my family and their moods, it effects my stress levels, my nutrition, my sleep, my relaxation time. It affects it all.
So for me, today, I will not do 50,000 things, more like 20 or less. Because:
What is your best plan today?
Consistency is that one things that trumps all else.
It allows for an off day. It allows for us to forget to take out meat from the freezer. It allows us to reach for a candy bar instead of a salad.
But then we start right back up again.
Consistency is also what others know us for. If someone described me in how I ate, how I slept, how I trained, how I grocery shopped, they would do a great job if they had a knowledge base of my normal actions. If I normally eat wonderful foods fixed right at home and train hard which helps me to sleep well, they will know this from knowing me. Since they have had conversations with me, they know I am proactive and supplement my sleep and health, and love to grocery shop quickly.
Often we think of consistency as what we do. It is that, but it is also what we are known for.
It is rare that I stray off the path and don’t train 4 times a week. Strange, but it’s true that I stress out and overindulge in sweets. These are not normal patterns for me.
What is your normal? What do you do over and over that people know you’ll do the next time and almost every time?
Consistency beats out intensity every time.
To your best health,
“If you want to teach, to change minds or to cause action, a consistent curriculum is always better than a single event. Drip by drip.” -Seth Godin
Think about a staircase. It connects two paths. It leads you upward or down. It helps you to the next level. It promotes you to a higher plane.
You have to take the action necessary to achieve that motion. Without you, a staircase does nothing.
How does a stair case work? Simple, one step at a time, one foot in front of the other. Sure you can take two at a time for a brief sprint but most of us travel one step up and then another.
The same holds true when you are connecting paths of nutrition. If you are at point A and want to get to point B, you do that one step at a time.
ProCoach changed my life. While I was ‘eating good’ and in ‘good shape’, it was forced and difficult.
Now, I have a sense of control. I gained that through the consistent coaching and daily focus of ProCoach. It’s not a quick fix. It’s a year long staircase where you take one step at a time.
To your best health,
I can't even begin to tell you how pumped up I am to be teaming up with Dan DeFigio, the bestselling author of "Beating Sugar Addiction For Dummies", to help you get off sugar and help you take back control of your eating.
The goal of Sugar Free Me is ambitious. To give you the education, resources and support you need to overcome your addiction to sugar and carbs, and regain control of your life!
Now some of you may think I am going overboard with the word "addiction". After all while we know eating too much sugar isn't great for us, does it really reach that level? Evidence suggests it can, as sugar has been shown to stimulate the same pleasure centers of the brain as some drugs.
I don't think it's any big secret that sugar and sweets are a big "go-to" when we are stressed, or tired, or lonely. The kick of dopamine that sugar gives us can lead to a very destructive cycle, actually altering our neural pathways , and it's also no secret the cycle of sugar addiction can be hard to beat.
Sugar Free Me is a 28-day step-by-step education, accountability, and strategy course that helps you understand the root causes of sugar addiction, how to address them to create your plan of action, and help you kick the cycle of eating excess sugar.
What we are going to learn:
We are also going to fill up your "Sugar Free Me Toolbox" with six new tools that are going to help you Avoid Temptation, Find and Avoid Your Food Triggers, and explore What You REALLY Want when you reach for the sweets. (Hint: It's not sugar)
The most valuable thing you are going to get over the course of this course (see what I did there) 🙂 is daily accountability and incredible support from both those taking this journey with you and our incredible team of coaches.
You will have your own account created in a really cool program called "Coach Catalyst". Every day you will get an email or message to your phone that delivers your daily "Sugar Free Me" lesson and asks the question: "Did you avoid eating all added sugars yesterday?"
Don't underestimate the power of answering that daily question honestly. This simple action does a couple of very important things. It creates a record for you to look back on and evaluate under what conditions and in what circumstances you tend to reach for the sweets. But it also helps your coach know when you need a little extra help to get moving in the right direction.
You also get access to our Private Facebook page, where you can hang out with folks on the same journey and where your coaches can offer more support. We have found these groups are a powerful way to stay connected and see that you are not the only one struggling. Take advantage of this page!
I really appreciate Dan making his resources and expertise in this area available to us. His full online course is priced at $95, but we are able to offer the 28-Day Sugar Free Me course for only $27. This is an incredible deal for everything you get!
The "Sugar Free Me" Challenge Officially Starts Monday, October 2, 2017, but don't be "that guy", and sign up today! As a bonus, you will get immediate early access into the Facebook Support group.
For someone who loves sweets (like I do), you may be wondering what you might be getting yourself into.
As with anything we do that is "new", it's going to take a little time to adjust to your "new normal". Here's a thought to consider.
Did you know that one of the keys to success and happiness in life is to practice self-compassion?
We are SO hard on ourselves when we don't live up to our expectations for ourselves, and that usually leads to a downward spiral of guilt and feelings of failure. I have lived it, and it usually meant reaching for more food. That's how I got to 280 pounds.
But I learned really fast that to take it off I needed more than education (I knew eating junk food wasn't good for me), or more willpower (when I am tired or feeling blue I have none). I needed a strategy for dealing with the inevitable stuff that comes up to derail me perfect plans - I think it's called life! 🙂
And that is what Sugar Free Me is all about. Sure there is an education component involved, but more importantly we are going to give you real world strategies to set yourself up to succeed, including what to do if (when) you aren't perfect and fall off the wagon.
No program is magic. Change takes effort and self-reflection. It takes a willingness to step out of your comfort zone and embrace something new.
Salespeople everywhere are going to shudder, but DON'T invest in this program if you can't or won't take the 10 or 15 minutes a day it will take to read the lessons and get involved with the group. The last thing I want is for you to have another reason to beat yourself up.
If you want to talk to me or another coach to see if this 28-Day focus is right for you, you can drop us a line here.
To your success,
Planning, preparing and prioritizing our lives help us achieve the balance so many of us are seeking. While no one is in total control of their lives some people seem more in control than I feel. Why is that?
When I pose this question to those people who seem to have it all lined up and their lives in order, I find they have an agenda. They have a goal in mind and they do what they can to achieve that goal. They have their focus on.
Each of these people have come up with an action plan.
Their plan is to ACT — purposefully and meaningfully.
Step one is to have a plan.
Step two is to act on that plan.
Step three is to continue to act with intent to fulfill that plan.
No sure how to come up with a plan? Check out how to make SMART goals.
Now with your action plan in hand, prioritize. Focus on the most urgent or important task for right now.
Choose ONE task, goal, and/or step. Focus.
Yes, I know it can be tough. There are often lots of awesome and exciting options! Narrowing down to what you can do right now drives focus.
Think back to those people who appear to have it all together. They have learned to dial it in by focusing on what needs to be done first. They know what needs to be done right now in order to make after that run smoother.
Once you’ve put your action plan into place and focused on one task at a time for two weeks, evaluate how well you did.
Simply repeat that process.
Plan, dial it in, and act.
To your best health,
You have super powers. We all have super powers.
I love watching professional sports. The players are amazing athletes. They are Super Stars of what they do.
But I am surrounded by Super Stars.
I see Super Stars all around me each day as over a hundred people come to train with me at Get Fit NH. We’ve all heard since we were little that we are unique and special. I believe that. Many of us see our differences as skin color, or hair color or eye color. I see those difference in super powers.
Super powers do not just come in the type you see in a Marvel or DC Comic Super Hero.
Your super power resides in you. Do you know what it is?
To find your super powers you will need a piece of paper. Set a timer for 5 minutes and write down all the things you did well in the past week.
It could be:
You placed your keys in the same place every day this week so they were quick to grab instead of being lost somewhere in the house.
It could be:
You were on time for work every day.
It could be:
You had your kid’s schedules organized with who was picking up each child for school, sports, piano and the play date before any of them actually happened.
It could be:
You always have food in the house to eat and it isn’t a problem to ‘find’ something when it is meal time.
Go ahead, write it all down. All of it.
No worries if you’re still writing. Take your time. Don’t shortcut this step by only thinking for 2 minutes. Write for the entire 5 minutes. Remember we are developing your super power.
In my examples, there was a similar thread woven throughout. First, I set my keys in the SAME place. I was consistent. Second, I was on time EVERY day for work. Third, I had PLANNED ahead for schedules. Finally, I ALWAYS have food which means I must shop regularly.
My super power is probably planning. I seem to be able to do this better than other people I know. My super power of planning helps me in many areas but it boils down to I am a planner.
What do you do really well, even better than those around you? That is your superpower. What makes you shine? What are you known for? What seems to come easier for you than your friends? The answer to that is your super power.
Now what is your super power when it comes to nutrition?
It could be your super power when it comes to nutrition is:
What is your super power?
To your best health,
Knowing what to eat, when to eat, how to eat is necessary. Help yourself out and plan for success. I recently had a nutrition coaching student who sent me her plan to succeed with her nutrition. She found by simply answering questions about her physical environment that she succeeded more often with her eating.
My physical environment helps me to slow down to eat when…
I sit and take a deep breath. The TV is off. My plate is smaller. I have to get up and go in the kitchen to get more food.
My physical environment helps me to choose healthy foods when…
My pantry is organized and well stocked. I write out a list (based on a plan) and take it to the store. The are healthy choices available. I have ready options when I need them, especially for breakfast and lunch.
My physical environment or daily routines can help me a bit more when...
I prep lunch the night before.
Three ways to help the foods you know you should eat actually make it onto your plate.
To your best health,