Tuesday in Seth Godin’s excellent blog, he wrote about “Abandoning Perfection”.
He called perfection the “ideal defense mechanism”.
When you demand perfection what you are really doing is giving yourself an out.
“I’ll start eating better when…”
And then you spew out every
excuse reason in the book.
So what are you really waiting for?
Concordance [kon-kawr-dns, kuh n-]
In the past we have used the word compliance to describe when we stick to a plan.
For example we would assign a task based on the habits such as “Have vegetables every time you eat”.
If you did it, you were compliant, if you didn’t, you were not.
Do you like that word, compliance, or does it rub you the wrong way?
Recently we have adopted the term “concordance” instead.
I like that better.
We will come to an agreement about which habits you can and will do.
It is your value system that is important, not mine.
Acting in concordance with our stated values is so much better than having compliance forced upon us.
How will you live in concordance today?
What gift do you have to share with the world today?
I received a note from a client yesterday.
It was a gift to me.
That small thoughtful expression of gratitude changed me.
It caused me to be grateful for her, and the opportunity to serve her.
Gifts are always a two way street.
The giver and the recipient both find joy.
What joy can you create today?
I spent the last few days with a group of my peers in the coaching industry.
Because I needed for them to tell me what I don’t know.
Because often times the problem is you don’t know what you don’t know.
So you need to seek help.
I am a coach. It would be pretty hypocritical of me to not have a coach.
This peer group is one way I get coaching. And I love this group so much because we don’t just talk business, or fitness, we talk about life.
They challenged me to spend more time with my wife and kids. To be intentional and present when I am with them.
I needed to hear that.
What do you need to hear?
Who is willing and able to tell you?
Dave Ramsey is a financial author and speaker whose main message is “Get Out Of Debt”.
The sub-title of his book “The Total Money Makeover” is “A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness”.
So he’s a fitness guy – cool.
In chapter 5 of the book he writes about how financial fitness and health & fitness have a lot of similarities.
You have to identify the current challenges you have, and then come up with a plan to overcome them.
Part of the problem in both realms is ignorance.
Now don’t go getting all offended.
Ignorance is not a lack of intelligence. (Remember, I am the stupid one)
Ignorance is simply not knowing what you don’t know.
Someone taught you to read and write. Someone taught you to drive a car. Someone taught you nearly every skill you know.
We may not think of eating as a skill. After all anyone can shove food down the hole under their nose.
But eating skillfully in order to support your health and fitness goals is an entirely different issue.
And that can be learned.
If you want to learn it.
Would you describe yourself as “Grateful”?
Would your friends, family and co-workers?
I’ll admit I do not count my blessings enough.
I take a lot for granted.
Like the choices I get to make every day.
I am not scrounging for my next meal.
I don’t have to eat the same thing every day because that’s all there is to eat.
I have the luxury, yes luxury, of complaining and stressing about food.
“It’s so hard to eat healthy”.
Get A Grip.
And be grateful your life is that hard.
For a blog that’s “About The Food”, I haven’t said too much about food.
We will get there.
What you feed your body is important.
But what you feed your mind is more important.
I don’t want you to change one thing about your nutrition until you work on changing your belief system, your mind, first.
Something is holding you back from reaching your goals.
What is it?
What are you willing to do about it?
When are you going to start?
We want it all.
We want it now.
And, oh, make it easy too.
As one of my coaches says “We want to change everything without changing anything“.
That is human nature.
It is also fantasy.
To change we must grow.
Something has to change if we want a different outcome than we are getting.
We don’t have to lose our identity.
Just expand who we are willing to become.
You get to choose what that looks like.
But you can’t stand still and do nothing.