Category Archives for "Mindset"

A Work in Progress

Today is THE day.

Have you been perfect? No? Well, that's a GOOD thing!

Because we are looking for progress, not perfection.​

Coach Vince Gabriel put it this way, “When you get half-way up the mountain you can look at how far you have to go or you can focus on how far you have come.”

We humans can be such difficult creatures to get along with.

“I only lost 2 pounds of fat last month!!!” and frustration sets it.

I bet if you lose 24 pounds of fat this year you would be pretty happy about it though. You will need a whole new wardrobe, and you know how much you love to shop.

You can’t lose the 24 without losing the 2.

So stop trying to be perfect all the time and be happy when you take that next step, when you make just a little more progress.

Progress might look like:

  • I went shopping for the week
  • I ate vegetables this morning 
  • My meal plan is done…for today
  • I only had two cookies last night 
  • I walked a different route so I wouldn’t be tempted to snatch candy from the office jar
  • I did something good for myself today

Progress, not perfection.

To your best health,
Coach Nancy​

Time Outs Have Rules, Too

One of the best ways to relieve stress is to give yourself a time out. As a parent, I have often taken a few deep breaths before talking to my child about a situation that has emotions high. When my kids were little I would help them to calm down and ‘think’ about an issue by having them sit in a time out. That small amount of time gave them a chance to avoid more aggravation by taking time just to be alone. Time outs are valuable for adults too.

5 reasons why adults should have timeouts:

  1. Stress. Being an adult is tough work. While we might want to do one thing, we realize we have obligations and other people who are relying on us. Daily pressures add up to a mountain of stress.
  2. Sleep. If only we could take our own advice and get to bed when we need it, it seems like there is always one more thing we have to do. Then on top of that, we don’t sleep like soundly like we once did.
  3. Work. This might be the cause of our stress but often it just adds to the stress we place on ourselves.
  4. Nutrition. I don’t know about you but there is always room for improvement when it comes to my eating. I get a bit anxious when I think about the possibilities I could have if only I could eat better.
  5. Physical training. While this is fantastically wonderful for you, training is self imposed stressed on our bodies. With proper sleep, great nutrition and plenty of water that stress is negated by all the goodness of training. But see above if you have any doubt there might be an issue.

Ahhh a time out, a place to gather focus. A time to energize and feel like a human again. A time out is a place to get better. As a child we had time outs in order to calm us, help us to regain focus, energize ourselves so we could rejoin the group. As grown ups we can gain all those benefits again.

Here is what you do for an adult time out:

  1. Lie flat on your back with a small pillow under your head to keep your spine in total alignment. Breath. Deep inhales with your exhale becoming like a relaxing sigh. Putting your thoughts into alignment with your breathing. Think about your breathing. Listen to the sound of the air traveling in and out. Notice what happens to your shoulders and your toes. This is not an opportunity to work out your next list of things to do or think about the meat you forgot to take out of the freezer.
  2. If taking time to lie down in the middle of your office floor is not a good idea to keep normal in other people’s mind, the next best place to do a 5 minute time out, at your desk with your head back on the head rest and eyes closed. Set a timer so you don't fall asleep. Again focus on your breathing. Notice and feel what how your body is responding. While in your time out, consider it your time.

Time outs are an effective way to manage your stress but also become a better version of you.

To your best health,
Coach Nancy

Don’t Do What Ice Does

Do you know how ice becomes ice?

​The chemistry behind it all?

"Lots of little H20 molecules are buzzing around as water. Then, as the temperature drops, they slow down ... a n d s l o w d o w n a n d s l o w d o w n ... and finally lock into place as ice. To me, that comes perilously close to describing the way we work. Imagine a bird’s-eye view of a building with people working inside. People come in, full of energy. And then they slow down, sit down and spend the whole day locked in place (desk, meeting room, repeat). We get locked into place, locked down into being efficient and in the groove — but not really being creative. To get creative, you’ve got to move it, move it. You’ve got to move it, move it! *Thanks, Vanilla Ice.”- from the book Be Creative by Michael Bungay Stanier.

I know what you’re thinking and you are right but you are also wrong.

You are probably thinking ahead to me writing all about get your body moving. Get off that chair and do something active. I know you can hear me inside your head…… "you can do anything for 30 seconds".

But I’m not going there.

I’m old. I am reminded of that fact often as I fill in forms and my age bracket is lower and lower on the page. I see the facts that my date of birth has me scrolling to find the year I was born.

With age comes the gnawing idea that I am becoming set in my ways. My patterns of behavior are like ice. They are solid and very predictable.

That’s not a good thing when I want to change something. What about you? How easy is it for you to change something about your behavior?

Face the facts, you’ve slowed down and your habits are iced into your being. It’s going to take some work and a long time to melt that exterior and create new.

Change can be difficult, no question.

These 3 steps to reaching any goal help us to get ourselves unstuck:

  1. Create A Plan
  2. Take Daily Action Steps
  3. Reassess and Adjust

Don’t settle for being in a rut. Get yourself unstuck from the path you’ve settled into.

When an ice cube melts, it does so slowly. At first the ice doesn’t seem to change at all, then a slow trickle of water melts down. A tiny drip is followed by another and soon a small puddle develops.

The water can now be shaped into something new. But nothing can happen until that first tiny drop trickles down.

To your best health,
Coach Nancy

My Choices: Are They Good, Better, or the Best I Can Do?

Good, better or best?

We face choices every day. Choices in what we eat, when we eat our meals, where to eat, eating on the go or taking time to sit, having a meal or drinks with family and friends or alone. Choices hit us even at the grocery store.

You have your meals planned and you’re heading to the store. You’re in front of the strawberries ready to pick up the berries for a salad you planned for dinner the next night.

AH..... you stop because there are two choices. The berries on sale and some organic berries. What do you do?

While your thoughts pause long enough you realize that you could take an hour out of your day tomorrow morning to pick strawberries. It was always a favorite while a kid and now you can make those memories with your own family.

Oh and another option speaks up while you are still standing in the produce section - you could just stop on the way home and buy some at that farm stand.

Oh, what to do, what to do.......

Is there only one right choice?

Life is so so busy. I have 50,000 things on my to-do list just for today. So my best choice is that I should stay at it, hit the ground running and keep on going until all 50,000 are done.

It will make me feel good to check off 50,000 things.

What will it cost me to do all those things?

  1. Sunshine - today is gorgeous and I will miss all of it
  2. Time with my family - one thing I have learned more than anything else is that life is short and I can't get time back with my kiddos or hubby
  3. Sanity - I'm probably not the nicest person as I fly around in a whirl wind
  4. Energy - when I finally finish I will collapse in exhaustion going right to bed
  5. Sleep - I will probably miss some of that or a lot depending on how long it takes me to complete my list 
  6. Another to-do list

What will I gain?

  1. Time tomorrow because nothing is left to do
  2. A big sense of accomplishment
  3. Relief as some of these things have been hanging over my head

What does this have to do with good, better or best?

Everything.

I make choices that involve my being and affects my well-being.

It affects my mood, my family and their moods, it effects my stress levels, my nutrition, my sleep, my relaxation time. It affects it all.

So for me, today, I will not do 50,000 things, more like 20 or less. Because:

  • Sunshine is important to me - more important than to-do's
  • Time is priceless - my to-do list will always be with me
  • Sanity - I can't take back an unkind word, only apologize for it
  • Energy - others deserve my wholeheartedness and I want to give it to them
  • Sleep - I will be a better person (see sanity above)

What is your best plan today?

Coach Nancy

Consistency is Your Trump Card

Consistency is that one things that trumps all else.

It allows for an off day. It allows for us to forget to take out meat from the freezer. It allows us to reach for a candy bar instead of a salad.

But then we start right back up again.

Consistency is also what others know us for. If someone described me in how I ate, how I slept, how I trained, how I grocery shopped, they would do a great job if they had a knowledge base of my normal actions. If I normally eat wonderful foods fixed right at home and train hard which helps me to sleep well, they will know this from knowing me. Since they have had conversations with me, they know I am proactive and supplement my sleep and health, and love to grocery shop quickly.

Often we think of consistency as what we do. It is that, but it is also what we are known for.

It is rare that I stray off the path and don’t train 4 times a week. Strange, but it’s true that I stress out and overindulge in sweets. These are not normal patterns for me.

What is your normal? What do you do over and over that people know you’ll do the next time and almost every time?

Consistency beats out intensity every time.

To your best health,
Coach Nancy

One Step at a Time

“If you want to teach, to change minds or to cause action, a consistent curriculum is always better than a single event. Drip by drip.”   -Seth Godin

Think about a staircase. It connects two paths. It leads you upward or down. It helps you to the next level. It promotes you to a higher plane.

You have to take the action necessary to achieve that motion. Without you, a staircase does nothing.

How does a stair case work? Simple, one step at a time, one foot in front of the other. Sure you can take two at a time for a brief sprint but most of us travel one step up and then another.

The same holds true when you are connecting paths of nutrition. If you are at point A and want to get to point B, you do that one step at a time.

ProCoach changed my life. While I was ‘eating good’ and in ‘good shape’, it was forced and difficult.

Now, I have a sense of control. I gained that through the consistent coaching and daily focus of ProCoach. It’s not a quick fix. It’s a year long staircase where you take one step at a time.

To your best health,
Coach Nancy

Be Just Like Superman

I am a big fan of Superman. Like who wouldn’t be? He is a good guy, not just good in what he does but an all around nice guy. But he had bad days like the all of us mere humans do.

What did Superman do to manage his stress? Where did he go? Who did he turn to?

Superman had a Fortress of Solitude. His fortress was a place where the cares of this world didn’t follow him. He could be himself. He could hang up his cape and talk with those he loved.

Superman also had Lois Lane to turn to when things were going downhill. When Superman was with Lois, he could be Clark Kent. He didn’t have to be or do anything special with her. They were a team, they helped each other. Lois was the one who often hid the kryptonite from Superman. He often rescued Lois from danger. Who is your Lois Lane? Who can you team up with?

Superman spent time in his Fortress of Solitude. Superman had Lois Lane.

Superman didn’t live a fairytale where it was all sunshine and rainbows. In fact, he thrived on catastrophes and near world disasters. That is until Kryptonite came out. His biggest source of stress, the thing that weakened him most was Kryptonite.

Now what is your kryptonite? Superman could do extraordinary things but he could easily be turned into a pile of helplessness by being exposed to kryptonite. What makes you lose all your senses when it comes to food? Where do you find yourself always giving in to things that won’t help you get to your health and fitness goals?

Write it down.

Identify your superpower/s when it comes to food. Fill in this statement:

My superpower is ______________________.

Your follow up statement will be:

I will put away/lock up my kryptonite which is _________________.

Remember, I can help you. I can be your Lois Lane. If you are stuck, let me help you get unstuck.

Each day, consistently employ your superpower/s and every day have a strategies to keep your kryptonite locked up.

To your best health,
Coach Nancy

Right Now!

Planning, preparing and prioritizing our lives help us achieve the balance so many of us are seeking. While no one is in total control of their lives some people seem more in control than I feel. Why is that?

When I pose this question to those people who seem to have it all lined up and their lives in order, I find they have an agenda. They have a goal in mind and they do what they can to achieve that goal. They have their focus on.

Each of these people have come up with an action plan.

Their plan is to ACT — purposefully and meaningfully.

Step one is to have a plan.
Step two is to act on that plan.
Step three is to continue to act with intent to fulfill that plan.

No sure how to come up with a plan? Check out how to make SMART goals.

Now with your action plan in hand, prioritize. Focus on the most urgent or important task for right now.

Ask yourself:

  • What do I need, right now?
  • What will be most productive, right now?
  • What will truly promote change and growth, right now?
  • What will help me most, right now?
  • What can I actually handle or do, right now?

Choose ONE task, goal, and/or step. Focus.

Yes, I know it can be tough. There are often lots of awesome and exciting options! Narrowing down to what you can do right now drives focus.

Think back to those people who appear to have it all together. They have learned to dial it in by focusing on what needs to be done first. They know what needs to be done right now in order to make after that run smoother.

Once you’ve put your action plan into place and focused on one task at a time for two weeks, evaluate how well you did.

Simply repeat that process.

Plan, dial it in, and act.

To your best health,
Coach Nancy

I Have Super Powers

You have super powers. We all have super powers.

I love watching professional sports. The players are amazing athletes. They are Super Stars of what they do.

But I am surrounded by Super Stars.

I see Super Stars all around me each day as over a hundred people come to train with me at Get Fit NH. We’ve all heard since we were little that we are unique and special. I believe that. Many of us see our differences as skin color, or hair color or eye color. I see those difference in super powers.

Super powers do not just come in the type you see in a Marvel or DC Comic Super Hero.

Your super power resides in you. Do you know what it is?

To find your super powers you will need a piece of paper. Set a timer for 5 minutes and write down all the things you did well in the past week.

It could be:

You placed your keys in the same place every day this week so they were quick to grab instead of being lost somewhere in the house.

It could be:

You were on time for work every day.

It could be:

You had your kid’s schedules organized with who was picking up each child for school, sports, piano and the play date before any of them actually happened.

It could be:

You always have food in the house to eat and it isn’t a problem to ‘find’ something when it is meal time.

Go ahead, write it all down. All of it.

I'll wait.

No worries if you’re still writing. Take your time. Don’t shortcut this step by only thinking for 2 minutes. Write for the entire 5 minutes. Remember we are developing your super power.

In my examples, there was a similar thread woven throughout. First, I set my keys in the SAME place. I was consistent. Second, I was on time EVERY day for work. Third, I had PLANNED ahead for schedules. Finally, I ALWAYS have food which means I must shop regularly.

My super power is probably planning. I seem to be able to do this better than other people I know. My super power of planning helps me in many areas but it boils down to I am a planner.

What do you do really well, even better than those around you? That is your superpower. What makes you shine? What are you known for? What seems to come easier for you than your friends? The answer to that is your super power.

Now what is your super power when it comes to nutrition?

It could be your super power when it comes to nutrition is:

  • Planning - meal planning, grocery shopping list, planning your vacation foods.
  • Prepping - you might dice, chop, slice and have things ready to go better than others.
  • Grocery shopping (this is mine) - I can get in and out and avoid excess better than others.
  • Restaurant eating - knowing where to eat to get the best food, knowing how to order and sweet talk your server so they love helping you with special requests.
  • Cooking – you might be that gourmet cook who can make anything superb.

What is your super power?

To your best health,
Coach Nancy

Set Yourself Up For Success

Knowing what to eat, when to eat, how to eat is necessary. Help yourself out and plan for success. I recently had a nutrition coaching student who sent me her plan to succeed with her nutrition. She found by simply answering questions about her physical environment that she succeeded more often with her eating.

My physical environment helps me to slow down to eat when…
I sit and take a deep breath. The TV is off. My plate is smaller. I have to get up and go in the kitchen to get more food.

My physical environment helps me to choose healthy foods when…
My pantry is organized and well stocked. I write out a list (based on a plan) and take it to the store. The are healthy choices available. I have ready options when I need them, especially for breakfast and lunch.

My physical environment or daily routines can help me a bit more when... 
I prep lunch the night before.

Three ways to help the foods you know you should eat actually make it onto your plate.

To your best health,
Coach Nancy