Give Yourself a Break

 Have you ever found yourself giving others a break for a small mistake or bad choice while condemning yourself for that same action? I do.

Student: "I ate a huge bowl of ice cream yesterday because it was there and it looked great."


Me: "Yes, but look at all the other stuff you did great yesterday. You ate a fantastic breakfast, you are drinking one cup of regular coffee instead of 4 like before, and you avoided the fried foods at lunch."

I end up encouraging them. I've helped them to see the good in their life.

BUT if I do that same thing.

Me : I ate three cookies at lunch actually they were lunch.

Me: I can't believe you ate three cookies. What were you thinking? Well you better not do that ever Ever EVER again. Actually you don't do much right, so never mind. You're hopeless.

(Yes, I do the same thing....give others lots of slack and encouragement while beating myself up...a work in progress for sure.)

You: I ate three cookies at lunch; actually, they WERE lunch.

‪Me: Were they worth it? Are we back on-board with a supper plan? If it's not a lunchtime habit, forget it and move on. In times of stress and rushing from place to place I have survived worst lunches.

Here is a way to move on from it and use it to do better the next time. (Though this is STILL a hard one for me! ) In the long run the 3 cookies won't sink you, unless you let them.

Tell yourself you did a great job at ______________today.

Go ahead a I dare you. What did you do today better than most? 

Here is a list I saw just this morning:

People Motivating others

‪Moms Taking care of their mom.

Running 2 miles and walking 4 more

‪Rocking the chin up bar this morning ..!

Getting myself to 5 am training

‪Training as hard as I could today

‪Planning my supper

Staying calm

When you find yourself discouraged for one action or poor choice. Find other actions or great choices that will spur you onto better action.

To your best health,

Coach Nancy


About the author

Coach Nancy

Nancy Carlson is a Certified Professional Fitness Trainer with the National Exercise and Sports Trainer Association, a Level 1 Youth Conditioning Specialist with the International Youth Conditioning Association, and is a Level 2 Certified Precision Nutrition Master coach. Nancy was recognized in 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016 and 2017 as the “Best of the Best” Fitness Trainer in Southern NH by the Hippo Press.

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