I just Can’t Seem to Get It Done

I recently had a conversation with a sweet person who is struggling to make continual progress. In fact she told me she was 'failing miserably'. I can relate to that. Many times in my life I have felt like I was given an insurmountable task. Often times I have success for a day or two, sometimes even a week before falling off the trail again. 

I came across some helpful tips that I thought I would share with you. I don't think I am alone when I just can't conquer a skill on a long term basis.


  • I like lists. What I like better than lists is a list that is all crossed off. One way to build a habit is to add it to your daily To Do list. Even if you feel like the task is so small that you don't need to add it to your list, for instance taking your daily vitamins. Allow yourself the feeling of accomplishment each day as you check it off the list
  • Find your Why? In fact find a deep why. Keep asking yourself why until you just don't have an answer anymore. I did this recently with a student here is her Why. Why do you want to lose 10 pounds? I want to be a size smaller in clothes. Why will being in a smaller size change things? I was that size before my last baby. Why or what does that size allow you to do or feel? It makes me feel happier. Why does a clothing size change your happiness? It makes me feel sexier and then I feel more loved. Why do you feel sexier? Because I have confidence in myself, instead of hiding myself.     Do you see how much more powerful having confidence is rather losing 10 pounds?
    • Start small for a quick reward. Usually when we can't seem to get a task done, it is just too big to conquer all in one day or one week. Its just too big. Taking your goal apart and dividing it into smaller more manageable bite size pieces you'll find greater success. That success can spur you onto more action. Your success is a party given just for you. Enjoy it soak it in. Learn from that success that more of these parties are around each corner. Just make those corners close together.
    • Find some peeps. Losing weight, getting healthier, becoming more fit is a popular there. It probably won't take a long time to find a friend or two looking to do something similar. I have a group of peeps that hang out together on Facebook. We jump into conversations that we want and just listen on other. This is a closed group so while we chat together, the whole world doesn't see it. "Happy Healthy Lives - No Food Guilt" is the name of our group. If you can relate to that title maybe this is the group of peeps you are looking for. No worries if its not, the important thing is to find some people to help you along your journey. 

You might find a combination of these will push you past your hurdle. It might be just one of these ideas that spurs you to reach your goal. But try them out. If one doesn't work, try another one. Find the one that works best for you. 

To your best health,

Coach Nancy​

About the author

Coach Nancy

Nancy Carlson is a Certified Professional Fitness Trainer with the National Exercise and Sports Trainer Association, a Level 1 Youth Conditioning Specialist with the International Youth Conditioning Association, and is a Level 2 Certified Precision Nutrition Master coach. Nancy was recognized in 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016 and 2017 as the “Best of the Best” Fitness Trainer in Southern NH by the Hippo Press.

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